Bagi saya kehidupan setelah menikah itu sangat berbeda dengan kehidupan sebelumnya. Berbagai perubahan dan peraturan baru muncul tanpa kita rencanakan sebelumnya. Baru-baru ini saya dan sang suami berbicara tentang “menjadi diri sendiri” setelah menikah. Di sisi lain saya merasa kebebasan menjadi diri sendiri itu hilang dan tanpa saya sadari sang suami pun merasa seperti itu, tapi cara menyikapinya saja yang berbeda. Sang suami bilang kalau menjadi diri sendiri sudah tidak menjadi hal tidak begitu penting lagi ketika kita berkomitmen menjalani sebuah pernikahan, karena mau tidak mau perbedaan persepsi, gaya hidup, dan hal yang biasanya kita lakukan sebelum kita menikah, pastinya diantara kita mengikuti satu sama lain. Sehingga menjadi diri sendiri itu adalah bagaimana kita bisa menyesuaikan diri dengan pasangan.
Getting married is different from dating or living together because it is a legal contract involving a life-long commitment, depending upon a self-knowledge and confidence that few of us feel we have. Even for people who have known each other for years can find it hard because suddenly the rules have changed. If you don’t like it, you can’t just slam the door and walk out because the only door key you hold belongs to the door behind you :-).
Yah, intinya tidak usah terlalu serius menyikapi berbagai hal terutama perbedaan prinsip dan lalalalala.. Cari cara saja menjalaninya dengan cara yang fun. Biar seru baca marriage jokes di bawah ini yuk 😀
Ten Rules for a Happy Marriage:
- The woman always makes the rules
- These rules are subject to change without notice
- No man can possibly know all the rules
- The woman is never wrong
- If it appears the woman is wrong, it is because of a flagrant misunderstanding caused by something the man did or said
- The man must apologise immediately for causing the misunderstanding
- The woman can change her mind at any time
- The man must never change his mind without the proper consent of the woman
- The man must read the mind of the woman at all times
- At all times, what is important is what the woman meant, not what she said
My wife and I have the secret to making the marriage last…
Twice a week we go to a nice restaurant, have some good food, a little wine and companionship. She goes Tuesday and I go Friday. We sleep in separate beds, hers in Sydney and mine in Melbourne.
I take my wife everywhere, but she keeps finding her way back.
I asked her where she wanted to go for our anniversary, ‘Somewhere I haven’t been for a long time’ she said. So I suggested the kitchen. (ini nyindir saya banget hahaha..)
We always hold hands. If I let go, she shops 😀
She has an electric blender, an electric toaster and an electric bread maker. When she said that she had too many gadgets but nowhere to sit down. I bought her an electric chair.
Remember that marriage is the number one cause of divorce. Statistically 100% of all divorces started with marriage. I married Ms. Right, I just didn’t know that her first name was ALWAYS.
I haven’t spoken to her in 18 months now – I don’t like to interrupt her. The last time we had a fight, it was my fault. She asked, ‘What is on the TV?’ I said ‘It looks like Dust’.
In the beginning; God created the earth and rested. Then God, created the man and rested. Then God created woman. And since then neither God nor man has rested.
(R.Hynes of Mornington)
Marriage over the years
Some people have strange views on the subject of marriage
- In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.
- In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
- In the third year, they both speak and the neighbours listen.
From best man speeches
- A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
- A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
- To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
- To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot & not try to understand her at all.
- Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
- Any married man should forget his mistakes, there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.
- Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
- Women somehow deteriorate during the night.
- A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t .
- A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.
- A woman has the last word in any argument.
- Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
- There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage.
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t need.
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
Thanks to http://www.guy-sports.com/virtual/marriage.htm for making me laugh.. ^^